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10 Absolute Rights of the Spirit

The following rights will give words to thoughts and needs you already have. They will relieve you of any mistaken thoughts that you are selfish or have an attitude of entitlement. These are the needs of all freedom-seeking souls.
  1. To shine
    1. To be authentic and to be accepted for what I am.
    2. To be loyal to my truth, and to be believed, if I live with consistency.
    3. To be different as long as I do not impose myself on others.
    4. To improve, correct and surpass myself, and grow daily through every challenge.
  2. To use my free will
    1. To live my life as I see fit, as long as I do not impose it on others.
    2. To choose my career or occupation, and stick with it as long as I want to.
    3. To be creative, solve my problems in every area as I choose.
    4. To try, keep trying, take risks, make mistakes, fail, and not give up, no matter how long it takes me to get there.
  3. To develop my self-expression
    1. To speak for my right to be heard and treated with respect if I give it first.
    2. To give my honest opinion when it is invited, rather than say what is expected.
    3. To disagree or dislike something, but not to diminish it.
    4. To ask if anything in my demeanor provoked a reaction that I find disrespectful.
    5. To laugh at myself, but not at others, and to invite others to laugh with me, but not at me.
    6. To show people who are breaking line, where the start of the line is.
  4. To say NO
    1. To reject any treatment which I myself do not give to others.
    2. To decline requests that go against my principles or interests.
    3. To give what I wish to give and not what others expect of me.
    4. To deny any requests, decline any invitations, or gifts.
    5. To decline any requests that I cannot do with quality, including favors.
    6. To reject unsolicited opinions or advice.
    7. To reject intrusions and such as reading my mail or opening my drawers and cabinets.
    8. To warn culprits not to bring extra guests to my events.
  5. To protect my harmony
    1. To stand up for my dignity in a dignified way.
    2. To be accepted, or rejected, but not discussed.
    3. To not go where I know I am not appreciated.
    4. To enjoy my solitude.
    5. To withdraw if the moment becomes disagreable.
    6. To confront people amusing themselves at my expense.
    7. To demand the respect due me and all in my company as long as I give it first.
  6. To be successful
    1. To make the choices I see as appropriate and be responsible for my consequences.
    2. To choose my occupation and succeed no matter failures or time.
    3. To demand justice and efficiency in work and all relationships as long as I give it first.
    4. To invent, expand, and be committed to finding solutions.
  7. To be happy in a relationship
    1. To expect and demand the respect, consideration and care that I offer.
    2. To clarify all doubts and resentments with the person I love, privately.
    3. To know that what I give is well received.
    4. To foment and continue my individual growth.
    5. To be trusted and believed if I have earned it through honesty and consistency.
    6. To be criticized constructively, only.
    7. To choose my friends rather than be chosen, and to withdraw from damaging relationships.
    8. To request those that I love abstain from destructive criticism.
  8. To guard my privacy
    1. To keep a problem to myself.
    2. To use my free time as I please above the desires and expectations of others.
    3. To decline answering intrusive questions and to say I do not wish to discuss it (with you).
    4. To be consulted before any commitments are made in my name for service or leisure.
    5. To reject impositions of any kind.
  9. To defend my property
    1. To own and take care of my property.
    2. To demand that in my home everyone and everything be treated with respect.
    3. To decline requests, demands, or impositions to borrow clothes, books, my tooth-brush, my girlfriend or boyfriend, or my husband or wife, not necessarily in that order, or anything else that I do not wish to lend.
    4. To expect that my guests not help themselves to my personal things.
    5. To expect good care of my personal items when I lend them, and to demand their retun in the same condition that I gave them.
    6. To demand money owed to me if that person is spending on luxury items or activities.
    7. To demand that my personal property not be touched without my permission, my body in particular.
  10. To discover my spirituality
    1. To follow my own purpose and offer my greatest contribution to others.
    2. To merge with the energy of love through my own daily choices.
    3. To choose the person I love and to bring the energy of love into all of my acts.
    4. To polish myself to reach my purification.
    5. To create the path of my spiritual growth.
    6. To get as close to my God as I can.

How do we lose them?

When our Spiritual Rights are transgressed by others, our silence is an agreement; we lose our rights when we do not speak up for ourselves. In truth, others do not take our rights from us; we surrender them when we make choices out of fear, mediocrity, and convenience.

How do we defend them?

Most of us are ready to defend our dignity, but in an undignified way. The idea is not to respond with violence, but with clarity and elegance. We can best defend our Spiritual Rights with good manners—by making intelligence choices, giving respect because we deserve it, and remaining calm in the face of abuse.
Having graduated our third class in "communications in the Corporate Setting," I want to acknowledge the visible impact it has made on the organization.

I had concerns over the effectiveness of this course for the group of managers in the first session because of their years of complacency and habit, but they were ill founded. Your subsequent classes for the professional staff were equally effective.

A profile seems to be emerging; individuals are stepping up to new responsibilities, noticeably greater commitments are being made and organizational intimidation seems to be subsiding. As you cautioned me, several people who could not accept the challenge of integrity from their peers have left the company.

I have been in management at MCA for fourteen years and I want to thank you for the new way of bringing vitality to the organization. I do believe, as we continue to strive for more dynamic creativity and productivity, that the courage and commitment to grow are indispensable.

In acknowledging your elegance in fine coaching, I hope you will not hesitate to use MCA as a reference. The results are not only measurable, they are visible.

Al Jerumanis, Director
Corporate Data Processing

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