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The Gift Of Joy
Depth is the place in our spirit where fire and passion live.
Each time we overcome a challenge we increase our depth. Depth takes us to our highest and lowest points, but if you avoid the low points, you knowingly surrender the full joy of life.
My first "brush with depth" came when I was 39 years old and began this career teaching people how to live their lives with brilliance. It was the first time in my life that I had wanted something so deeply, thoroughly and completely. It was a full commitment to do everything that needed to be done; I would face and overcome every obstacle to manifest this dream career.
So many students come to me trying to find the passion to start something new in their lives. I tell them they had better find a comfortable place to sit because they will be waiting forever. Passion only appears after you start. Start and you will meet joy on your path. One by one each accomplishment will fuel your passion until it's so powerful that a thousand horses cannot stop you.
Those who develop their depth have colorful personalities with many facets and nuances, and when they leave they are greatly missed. When my father died I lost at least five people in one. He was my father, my my mentor, my friend, a teacher of many subjects, and a leader to emulate. He was also my library, thesaurus, dictionary, and encyclopedia.
It was difficult to recover from his departure because everywhere I turned I faced emptiness. As the days went by, I realized that the list of absentees kept growing—the deep thinker, the weaver of stimulating and amusing conversation, the masterful storyteller. My world was suddenly shallow and very different from the planet that he inhabited. So deep was the loss that I was as constantly aware of his absence as once I had been aware of his presence.
I mourned him for almost four years before the pain subsided, which was when I became aware of my great fortune of having had him for a father. Now he lives in my thoughts, in my heart, and in my memory. It took great discipline to stop my private pity party because i had lost so many of my best friends in one person and all at once.
The mcmories of my father are mine to relive at my whim; they are fresh and strong and have inspired many of the lessons that I share with you here.
The Five Seeds Of Joy
1. Be concious of what you receive every day
We are born receiving and continue to receive on a daily basis. Our senses allow us to see, hear, taste, smell. and touch, and through these we will learn all that we need to learn. Our body is the temple of our soul and contains everything we need to bloom and fulfill our potential. Begin to develop your passion by looking at every good thing that you receive in the course of the day and you will be amazed at your abundance.
2. Enjoy what comes through your senses
The gift of life is constantly received through our senses, and it is easy to awaken our awareness. Begin by looking at how the sunlight affects the look of your street. The shadows will remove from west to east over the course of the day, and at night the moonlight will create an altogether different landscape.
Walking can awaken our sense of touch. The pleasure of moving across dlfferent surfaces—grass, sand, and carpet—is unique. I do not know of an experience that is more life-affirming than being able to move from place to place.
Take the opportunity to awaken each of your senses by being attentive to the activity of the moment.
3. Be grateful for your gifts and share your abundance
Enjoy and explore the gifts that you already have, starting with the simple things that you live with every day. For example, I have the p:easure of writing this book in a beautiful home in Palm Springs, California. As I look up from my computer I have a gorgeous view of the imposing San Jacinto mountains—so close and colorful and inspiring—and I have to give my thanks to God for the view.
This habit of thankfulness creates a sense of abundance because you appreciate every good thing that you have. Gratitude strengthens our magnetism, attracting more things to be grateful about.
Our sense of gratitude will let us identify with the good fortune of others as well. Abundance sometimes brings to the surface negative feelings: envy in those who do not have it—or think that they do not have enough—and guilt in those that feel that they have too much. Abundance is abundance and should be celebrated always.
4. Listen to the desires of your soul
In addition to having gratitude for what we have, I suggest we have gratitude for what we are. It is easy to be grateful for wnat we have because we can see it and touch and feel it. Out true calling will be revealed to us as interest—the things we Hke to do.
When I began to witness the unmistakable signs of God's calling for me,I sacrificed to develop the talent and skill necessary to do what I do. It is never too late to develop the inclinations of your soul, but always too early to starve them. I suspect we all know someone who was not responsible in developing his or her gifts, and I guarantee that we do not want to be that person.
5. Look for joy in unusual places
It is easy to find joy in its familiar forms—celebrations, successes, love, gifts, and pleasures—but joy also comes from the bravery required to accept the inevitable hardships in life with strength and elegance.
The memory of a bad experience may continue to cause pain or anger. But if given the choice to remove the event from our memory with the condition that all the nobility and wisdom gained from it would be surrendered, I believe we would all choose to keep it.
Some of our most valued virtues are earned through sacrifice and courage, and a deep positive transformation for the better occurs when we do the best that we can at the moment. I have met people who stared death in the eye and survived, and all came back with a new understanding of gratitude.
I know I have told you several times of how much I have enjoyed and benefitted from meeting you, attending your course and learning from you, yet it never seems I have said it enough.
A day doesn't go by but that I am seeing the results of what I have learned.
The power of your work and the ideas you teach is so vast, that on a moment to moment basis, I experience the benefits.
I am also most delighted with the fact that I am deeply changed and the new ways of living, thinking and acting are coming from inside of me as a natural part of myself.
So many self-help types of training fail because they are just that - training to act differently than is one's nature.
The benefits of [your] work are apparent because of the immediacy of the changes that occur.
What is learned one day is integrated and used the next.
With Fondest Regards,
© 2013 Marta Monahan